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Abbeyfield Southern Oaks is a not for profit organisation. We are affiliated to The Abbeyfield Society, but are independent and run our own affairs.

Regulator: Housing Corporation H1185  

Registered Office: The Old House, Epsom Road, Ewell, Surrey KT17 1JZ

Registered Charity Number 247308

The company, which is limited by guarantee, is registered in England and Wales at the above address (registration number 734705)

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Works on the Nonsuch Abbeyfield Extra Care Community on Old School Lane, Ewell have started. Enabling works including demolition of the existing buildings and establishment of the site compound are underway. Castleoak, our construction partner, will then start the construction works in late December 2017 with completion of the building in the latter half of 2019. For details of our progress and ongoing updates please go to the

 Nonsuch Abbeyfield website

New Development in Ewell

Gordon Davies writes:-

It was my daughter, Linden, who did a lot of research into what might be suitable sheltered accommodation for me. Out of this research, the name ‘Abbeyfield’ figured prominently. Together with my other daughter, Alicia, we looked at the three ‘Abbeyfield Southern Oaks’ houses. Yes, they certainly met the criteria.

But, when it came to the possibility of actually moving into one of the houses, I became very apprehensive. What if I didn’t ‘fit in’? What if I couldn’t tolerate living in one room? How would I cope leaving behind my wonderful friends and neighbours, the activities that had become part of my life, the town and country I had grown to love? And, of course, there was the house which my wife, Phyllis, and I had made into such a lovely home and with which I was so familiar.

So you can imagine my feelings when the prospect of leaving all that behind looked like becoming real. It was in this frame of mind that I came to stay in the visitor’s room in 82, York Road. That time proved to be the essential turning point. Great! I was made so welcome by the residents and the lovely housekeeper, Jean, along with all the volunteers (who give of their time so willingly and cheerfully) that my fears proved to be quite groundless. Of course I miss my wonderful friends and neighbours. Of course I miss the activities in the town and country I have left behind. Of course I miss the house with which I was so familiar.

But, after that fortnight I had new friends whose company I really enjoyed. And, now I am here, yes, I do ‘fit in’. The prospects look good. There are clearly lots of things I can become involved in. I might need to watch out lest I be tempted to become too involved!

There is, however, one aspect I have left out. 82, York Road is called ‘Abbeyfield House’. But it is much more than just a house; it is a family home.

Les Wileman writes:-

Before moving into York Road I had stayed in the house for a long weekend; I had also visited a friend who was a resident. So my very first impressions were of a warm and comfortable house, and a group of very friendly residents, and a kind and friendly housekeeper.

Having now been a resident for almost 6 months my first impressions have now become my daily experience. Abbeyfield at York Road is a very special place; the residents are now my good friends, and I enjoy every moment of living here. At the centre of our lovely home is a very special lady; the love and care we receive from Jean is exceptional, she has enabled us to feel like a family. I am sure that I am not the only resident that has a special love for Jean, her smile, her friendliness is a joy to each of us. She is not just a very wonderful cook, she is a very special person.

I could continue, but will run out of superlatives. A lovely home, lovely people, great food and a lovely housekeeper.

Letters of recommendation

Betty Smith (96) writes

"I have known of Abbeyfield for many many years and I have always thought that I would like to live in an Abbeyfield House when the time came.  I decided to move to Purley Knoll when I lost my husband back in July 2016. Already in this short time, I feel settled and very secure in my new home.  Purley Knoll is everything and more in a positive way."

"Abbeyfield supplies the best of all worlds"

The feeling of comforting support and the freedom to spend one's time as wished are much appreciated, as is the pleasant accommodation. These coupled with the pleasure of meal-times shared with extremely friendly residents, excellent food expertly prepared by the House Manager, for whom it seems nothing is too much trouble makes Abbeyfield a great place to be!"

Anon 2017

I am writing on behalf of our family to express our appreciation of the

way Abbeyfield York Road accommodated my mother during her recent short break. Mother has talked very warmly of her time with the York Road

Residents and the support you were able to provide. We wish you well for

your important work in 2017 and beyond.

Anon 2017

*Thank you for all the help provided since I made initial contact with you regarding possible accommodation for my mum who was effectively housebound in an upper floor flat. From the initial viewing and the subsequent lunch invite from the House Manager, both my mum and I knew it would be the right move for her. Following a successful trial stay, my mum has now completed her first week as a fully fledged resident and has had more social interaction in this short time than for many years (including the summer garden party, exercise class and hairdresser visit). Lastly, but by no means least, she is enjoying lovely home cooked meals (including an impressive Sunday roast) in a convivial atmosphere rather than having a microwaved ready meal by herself.

Relative of resident at Mulgrave Road 2017

Very impressed with the care which Abbeyfield Southern Oaks has shown in helping my step-mother decide if Abbeyfield is the right step for her. This included a tour of the house, lunch with the other residents and a trial stay. At every stage we have felt very supported by the central team and all the communication has been very clear. At the house itself the house manager was very kind and welcoming ensuring that my step-mother felt at home almost immediately. Any questions have been promptly answered. Very positive attitude throughout from Abbeyfield Southern Oaks. Needless to say my step-mother has chosen to live in the Abbeyfield house.

Relative of resident at Purley Knoll  2017

“I moved into Abbeyfield Purley 6 months ago and would highly recommend living here. I like the social side of having people to talk to and having our meals together while also having my own room and space. Brenda the house manager is a lovely person and has really helped me settle in here after my husband died, plus Gill and Anthea too.
Mel and the Abbeyfield team were very helpful when I was looking to move here, arranging visits so I had a good feel for living here and making my move go smooth.
The Friends of Abbeyfield put on social events like games evenings and outings for example to the garden centre. I like Abbeyfield being near the centre of Purley, close to Tesco and other shops, bus stop and Purley library. It's living in a community but with the freedom to continue with activities outside the house if you wish.”

Resident of Purley Knoll.

My Dear Abbeyfield Friends,

As we approach another Christmas time, I fondly look back to the many Christmases that I have been part of in Purley. Most of my life has been connected to Purley. As a girl I lived in Purley and I went to school to school in Whyteleafe, and through my teenage years, I went regularly to Crusader classes which were also held in the Village hall at the end of the high street

I was born in October 1914, my father was a pioneer in Purley, he was a founder member pf the Purley Congregational Church, which was originally situated in the Village Hall in the High Street, the new (PCC) church built in the Brighton Road was completed in 1905, over the years he served the community relentlessly until he died in 1976, when he was 97.

I returned to Purley in 1957 after the War, re-joining my father and my brother in the family business. I worked there for 22 years, was sometimes referred to as “Miss Morgan”. I retired when I was 64 in 1979. I particularly enjoyed spending my time on Thursdays with the “Soup and Cheese” team, washing dishes, making endless cups of tea and accounting for the money in the large hall in Purley United Reformed Church. It became a natural extension to my connections with Purley and the Church which I enjoyed. I gave up the “Soup and Cheese” when I was 84, after some 20 years.

Through my life I have called upon the Lord and I am so grateful and thankful for the Churches’ guidance, the fellowship, caring and loyalty of the congregation which has so enriched my life. I wanted to keep and maintain that enrichment because I knew so many people from all walks of life who lived in and around Purley. I did not want it to end there, and it was not to be so

Abbeyfield is non-denominational organisation which embraces the local churches in the area. The residents come from all walks of life. Abbeyfield, 2 Purley Knoll,2PK is a special, one-off community, being non-intrusive yet “there for you”. Mealtimes are a time for getting together, and not a daunting sea of faces, families and friends are free to pop in. I am not sure if my son adopted, Abbeyfield or Abbeyfield adopted him, and he loved being there, helping where or when he could.

I became a resident in August 1998 and since then 2 Purley Knoll has been my home for 20 years, and I have seen the building enlarged with a beautiful garden and conservatory lovingly created, the Committee work tirelessly arranging fund raising events, garden parties, games and fitness routines. In the early years there was someone up-stairs, overnight attendance, the previous Housekeeper and her husband, were I am sure sent from heaven, with the Committee they made Abbeyfield a true home a home. Often, there were loving and thoughtful notes or prayers that Wendy had written and dropped on my table if she knew I felt low. Sadly, that close attention has changed, but it is delivered in an effective way, doctors notes and appointment are not forgotten, yet delivered in a different way.

Abbeyfield made a great fuss of me when I became 100 years old. Yes, I received my letter from the Queen. My birthday cards and pictures remained strung out across my wall for a year or more. It was nearly 20 years to the day when I had to leave Abbeyfield, nearing 104, I was not able to live as independently or as safely as I could without extended support.

Abbeyfield retained my dignity and privacy and maintained in house companionship in equal measure. My weekly Church magazine brought to me by a Volunteer from the House Team kept me in-touch with my faith. These Abbeyfield years were most happy and many who knew me could and would pop in to see me, but the list gets shorter each year.

So, may I take this opportunity to wish all of you, and your families, the warmest season’s greetings, especially to all who are connected to Abbeyfield and the Carers, especially those at 2 Purley Knoll. I love and miss you.

Ex Purley Resident.